You may have heard people using the term “create space” lately with topics from self-care to social justice, but what does that actually mean? I can’t speak for other people and what their take on it is but for me creating space means carving out a place for you to feel comfortable and whole; that doesn’t have to be exclusive to just physical spaces. Creating space means that above all else you take care of yourself. You prioritize and recognize times when you need to strip away all the bullshit that can cloud your inner voice and let the silence guide you.
How do I create space for myself?
Ok so let’s start with the obvious. Physical space. Many people go the route of picking a spot in their home that is quiet and allows them to curl up and simply shut out the world. You certainly can do that but don’t just limit your space to the inside of your home. Do you have a backyard? Are you close to a park? Outdoor spaces are THE BEST, in my opinion, because they not only serve as your quiet space to recharge but they also have the added bonus of being amongst nature. Mother Nature is an excellent absorber of energy and by spending some time with her you will find that your mind becomes clearer, you feel more positive and you’re able to raise your vibration.
But what if you don’t have a physical space that you can call your own? Well, I’m glad you asked. That brings me to my next point which is creating space within yourself. No, I’m not asking you to cut a hole in your body. That’s insane. Take some headphones, listen to something like binaural beats, chanting or Enya and zone out. When you’re on the bus, taking a break from work, cooking dinner, you get the gist. Creating what I like to call a “dimensional space” shows you that no matter where you are or what you are doing, you can stay present and remain mindful.
An important point that I also want to bring up is that you don’t have to have just one space either. Have multiple! Do you know how certain video games have checkpoints where once you pass them your game is saved? Well, if you don’t know that now you do. Think of your spaces as checkpoints. You can have a space in your home to start or end the day, a space in your car where you listen to music, a dimensional space at work. Have as many as you need.
What should my space look like?
Rather than going by aesthetics, I would go by feel. Do you feel comfortable in the space? Are you able to let go and relax? Does this space serve you? If no comes up for any or all of those questions then you need to reevaluate and look for a new spot. Your space can’t serve you if you spend your time feeling uneasy or anxious.
Which brings me to my next point. Be comfortable with the fact that your space(s) will change. Nothing stays the same, all things change. In order for you to grow spiritually, you will have to move your safe spaces around. You’ll know that your space is no longer serving you when you simply don’t go to it anymore.
What should I do in this space?
Whatever you want! I like writing in my journal, crocheting, playing music, painting, sewing some clothes. Sometimes I just sit quietly for a moment. The what doesn’t matter, simply focus on doing what makes you happy and brings peace to your soul. If you’re able to keep some items within your space so that you don’t have to move them around that is a plus. Check in with yourself to figure out what you should do and do it. Don’t limit yourself and most certainly don’t judge yourself.
I also use my space as a way to remember to be grateful. Yes, you can wake up in the morning and say your prayers, affirmations and encouraging words but you can also do this at any time of the day. Having a spot that is a visual reminder to say “Thank you” to the Universe is excellent. Whenever you pass it, think about it, sit in (physically or mentally) you can take a moment to stop and tell yourself and the Universe all of the things that you are grateful for.
How often should I visit?
This is another personal choice but I find that at least once a day is perfect. How often you go depends on how often you need it. There may be some days when stress has taken over all aspects of your life so you’ll need to go through all of your checkpoints. Other days may not be as stressful but you may just want to be quiet.
I’ve had moments when I would sit in my space three times a day for weeks and then other times when I didn’t visit it but once or twice a week. It all depends on how you’re feeling and what you need to replenish your soul.
So by now, I hope that you have been inspired and gotten some helpful tips on creating your own safe space. Whether it’s a physical space in your home, office, or a dimensional space within your mind or a combination of the two you have the tools to make it special and personal. Ultimately you will get to a point where you don’t need a “space”. When you continue to raise your vibration and radiate love, wholeness and peace your space will always be with you no matter where you go. You’ll be like an island of light in a sea of anger, frustration and negativity.